Friday, January 4, 2008

D4: O.I.M.A.N.W.T.A.

Objects in mirror are not what they appear…

This is day four of the quest to find the woman my soul yearns for…

Things to tell my wife:

As you know, it's been over 33 years now and I haven't been able to find my wife. I thought I'd found her several times. I even picked out a ring once. But thus far those years have merely been long-term investments with poor yields. Good thing I'm not a stock broker…

I think that in a way, finding the person you want to spend your life with is like signing up for a degree at a university in which they won't tell you how many classes you need to graduate. You just have to keep taking classes until one day someone taps you on the shoulder and says here's your diploma. I think the only problem is that not only do we not know how many classes we have to take, but we don't know WHAT classes we have to take! And, as the bard would say, "Therein lies the rub"…

Given that I have been looking these 33 odd years, I recognize that she's better at hide and seek than I am. So I'll do my best to shed the artifice and lay bare the nature of my desires:

I believe in loving with complete abandon. I know that love has scarred all of us in its own unique ways, but we can't let that get in the way of letting the walls down for the right one. What is love but bearing your soul? How can you hope to build the foundation for a life together without talking about your fears? I consider finding your partner in life to be perhaps the most meaningful pursuit there is. And yet how seriously do we take this goal? When you're talking about the possibility of spending 50 + years of your life in an increasing state of happiness, how can we not try harder? I look at my cat and I'm overflowing with love for this wonderful little creature that adds such joy to my life. He makes me laugh, smile and provides endless fascination as I watch him interact with his environment. He's a very silly boy. And the love I have for him is just the tiniest fraction of what I'm waiting to share with the one.

So please, if you see my wife, tell her that I am working hard to find her. I've committed myself to this pursuit and will not rest until we are reunited. Granted there are things that get in the way… I am not independently wealthy, so I do have to work. And if I hadn't already committed myself to finishing this Ph.D., I would have a lot more time to look for her. I wish I had enough money to hire a private investigator. Anyone know a good P.I. who would trade some detective work for free psychotherapy? Think how much easier it would be if I had a private eye on the case!

Ok, fellow wanderers, please do what you can to spread the word. If you know any private eyes, even if they're amateurs, let them know I'm interested in trading whatever services I can offer for their help in finding my wife. Free counseling, yard word, car washes, house cleaning (I wield a mean vacuum), shopping, massage, you name it, I'll give it a try.

And as payback to all those who've stuck with me this far, let me extend my offer of help to you as well.

If, like me, you are searching for your ONE, please tell me about him (and about you). Given my profession and experiences, I think I'm a good judge of character. If I can help you locate your husband, I'll be glad to do anything I can. If we have to put our heads together to figure this out, then let's do it! I want happiness for everyone, not just myself. So send love out in your thoughts. Believe that you absolutely deserve to be blissfully happy. Let's make it happen!

See you tomorrow! And don't forget to send in photos, descriptions and any other clues you have.

P.S. Several kind souls have already sent me a number of clues I have to investigate further. And I'm very excited about looking into all that they've shared. However, today ended up being rather full and I just didn't wind up with enough steam to do it all. Nevertheless, I'm very grateful and will get back to everyone that passed on good information soon. Also, for what it's worth, it's MUCH faster for me to do my investigating over the phone. Everyone knows that energy runs through the phone lines much more powerfully than it does through the internet. There is magic in the human voice. There are voices that bring tears to our eyes just to hear the ache in their souls. Sure I'm game for exchanging a few emails back and forth to get the investigation under way. But when you really want to jump-start things, let's talk… There are few things I enjoy more than a good conversation. Except, of course, pirates


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